Saturday, April 21, 2018

No FOMO. ROMO.

Hello, everyone! Remember me? I know I've been gone for ages.

After several months of lingering depression and malaise with no obvious single cause, I undertook a thorough evaluation of my life. I realized there were three major problems I needed to address.

Problem 1: My diet was terrible. I ate too much fast food and too much sugar. I could hardly expect to feel healthy on such an unhealthy diet. I'd also become complacent about my iron intake, so my ferritin (stored iron) was almost certainly low.

Solution: Eat better. I radically overhauled my diet and resumed taking my iron supplement.

Result: I have more energy and feel better overall. I don't crave sugar or obsess about food as much. I've lost about 10 pounds. My skin looks better.

Problem 2: I have lost my enthusiasm for home improvement. After seven years of spending much of my time and energy on my "fixer upper" house, I'm just burned out. Yet I was still pushing myself to work on the house.

Solution: Stop forcing it. Don't work on house projects unless I want to. Stop looking through Pinterest and home improvement blogs which make me feel stressed about my unfinished projects and guilty that I'm not constantly working on something.

Result: It's not always easy to ignore the unfinished projects... but I'm inflicting less guilt and pressure on myself. After all, who really cares if I have new baseboards or not?

Problem 3: America is not the most pleasant place to live lately. The country is polarized on seemingly every single topic. It feels like everyone wants to argue about everything...  not in respectful debate, but with name-calling and personal attacks. And there is no escaping it! Spend two minutes online, even just trying to check the weather, and you can't help but see vicious comments and infuriating headlines about the latest disaster or political scandal. It made me sad, angry, and disgusted.

Solution: Disconnect. Stay off social media, which is overflowing with hostility. Stop reading the news, which is guaranteed to make me feel utterly horrible. Limit my screen time to playing (non-violent) games and watching (non-controversial) science and nature documentaries on Netflix.

Result: I feel much less angry. I've inched back from the brink of losing all hope for humanity. And far from suffering from FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out), I am, in fact, enjoying ROMO - the Relief Of Missing Out.

At least for a while, I am going to continue to focus on my mental and physical health. I'll be back online eventually. I look forward to reconnecting with you all. :)

20 comments:

  1. I am so happy to hear that you getting your energy back. I completely hear you on feeling incredibly pressured to finish projects and feeling guilty when they are not. I am very happy to hear that you are giving yourself more space to just breathe. Definitely continue the path you have started. I do look forward to your posts, but I can also be very patient. I also don't want you feeling burned out, that helps no one. So, continue the awesome progress. :)

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    1. Thank you! Cutting myself slack is a skill I continue to work on. ;)

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  2. Glad to hear that you are doing better! I have also started to enjoy ROMO. I am still working on the diet/health thing ... lately I have become very attached to my sodas, which is just awful. Every day is a struggle, just keep at it! You are doing great! :D

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    1. Thank you! Cola is my weakness. I know fizzy chemical water isn't terribly healthy... but it's so tasty! Substituting it with plain water has been one of the most difficult changes I've made to my diet.

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  3. Nice to hear that you're starting to feel better. Take all the time you need.

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  4. It is good to hear that you're taking care of yourself. While I hope to see you soon, I'd rather see a healthy and happy Bane. Hope the dogs are doing as well as you are. Thanks for the update!

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    1. The dogs are well and happy. :) Thank you!

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  5. Stay off social media, but don't stop reading the news... None of this is normal and it shouldn't be. That being said lol, I'm feeling great after cutting sugar out myself. My skin too!

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    1. Less sugar + more water = better skin. I look more grape and less raisin. ;)

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  6. I've been spending a lot of time out of the house than in the past. Part of it is I feel like I haven't lived because there was always something holding me back (grad school, finances, my now ex-husband...), and part was fear of doing stuff on my own. Then I wondered what the hell I had to be afraid of and realized I didn't have any of those things holding me back anymore. So just about every weekend, at least one day I'm out hiking, seeing a play, or visiting a city I've never been to before.

    I'm still crushingly unhappy, but I don't feel like I'm missing out on the negativity online, plus I can make plenty of my own on command.

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    1. Good for you for getting out and doing things! I should follow your example. I'm essentially a hermit. :/

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  7. Unplugging did wonders for me as well! Good to see you back :3

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  8. Welcome back. My advice ( p.s. it's real value is what you paid for it....... Nothing :-) ) - Stay connected but not too connected and only engage in things that are positive, the rest is CR#P - Keep one eye on the news but remember that todays scandal is history by tomorrow and it all changes anyway. - The web is like museli, it's about 75% nuts, So avoid the nuts as they usually cause allergic reactions. And Relax on the projects. My current 6 year project is progressing well despite being in year 15..... But it's getting there and looking good....

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    1. Thanks! Yeah, my 5-year project house is in year 8. I guess the reality is it's a neverending project. By the time I finish, I'll be ready to redo the stuff I did 10 years prior. :D

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  9. I'm so happy to hear you're feeling better! I don't comment very often but I very much enjoy your site and think you're extremely talented. You should be very proud of what you gave accomplished rather than feel bad that you haven't finished fixing up your place. It can be your version of the Winchester mystery house ☺

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    1. Thanks! You're quite right... I should remember my accomplishments. At this point, I have replaced and/or redecorated almost everything in the house!

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  10. Glad you're back! I might need to take some time to disconnect myself :/

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    1. Thanks! I think even a short disconnect can be refreshing.

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